Give yourself a break: when you compare yourself to people in magazines, remember that these people don’t actually look like that. They are photo-shopped and air brushed and have had their hair and makeup professionally done.
Focus on appreciation: Take 3 deep breaths and ask yourself ‘what do I love about my body’? Maybe start with things like: ‘I love the way my arms are able to hug people’ or ‘My legs get me places and help me close drawers when my hands are full’. See how many things you can find about what your body DOES that you can appreciate.
Reduce the criticism: Sometimes people believe that if they focus on what they don’t like, it will motivate them to change. The opposite is true. If you notice yourself measuring and pinching parts of your body that you don’t like, see if you can get yourself to STOP these actions. If you notice you’re in front of the mirror or critiquing your selfies often, commit to yourself that you will avoid the mirror and/or stop taking selfies for 1 week (or 1 day if you need to start there). Journal about this experience: what did you notice? Were you as critical?
Breathe into Compliments: If you receive a compliment, see if you can breathe into it rather than brushing it away. Take a few moments to really savor the compliment. Give yourself a few moments, even if you don’t believe it, to just pretend that it’s true. How would your life be different if you believed the compliments you received?
Project: You are on a search for body love. Look for images of people who are beautiful but are not perfect – whatever that means for you. If you feel that you need to be very thin, look for images of people who are NOT thin, but are beautiful anyway. Get at least 20 images. Gather these images in a place where you can look at them often – weather you have a paper copy or a Pintrest Board – put them all somewhere you can look at them at least daily and notice what you appreciate about these bodies. You might be surprised how your view of perfection shifts.
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