Do you feel like you’ve lost the connection you used to have with your partner? Emotionally-focused therapy (EFT) can help in the process of rebuilding the relationship from the ground up. Through the process of building more empathy and communication skills within the relationship, a path forward can be established.
Effective communication is based more on how you say things rather than on what you actually say. A conversation can go very well or wind up in a lot of anger and upset, depending on the communication style used. Our means of communication impacts all facets of life.
Do you want to learn skills or go deep?
Before searching for a trauma specialist in Bryn Mawr, Pennsylvania, you may want to consider what, exactly you are looking for. Do you want to learn skills to help you tolerate the trauma memories? Or would you prefer to engage in deeper therapeutic work to get underneath the trauma so that it can heal at the core?
Skills such as DBT Skills are extremely helpful for daily life.
DBT has 4 tenants: distress tolerance, interpersonal effectiveness, emotion regulation and mindfulness. These skills are essential when doing trauma work for PTSD and for many other difficulties such as anxiety, depression, anger management, eating disorders, self-harm and addiction.
If you’d prefer to get underneath the trauma, you will need a therapist who can help you with skills to stabilize and one who is able to help you heal at the root of the problem.
These skills are the building blocks that will allow you to be able to function and tolerate uncomfortable memories and emotions as you dive deeper into the healing work.
2. Which Therapeutic Models Do you Prefer?
When looking for a trauma specialist in Bryn Mawr, you’ll also want to take the time to find out the model or theory that the therapist uses to help navigate your therapy. If you’re looking for a safe space to process and talk things out make sure you find a counselor who is great at talk therapy. If you are looking for evidence based interventions to help you DO something with the traumatic material, you may want to investigate something like EMDR. If you want to work more from the body or a creative place, you may want to look for an art therapist, a yoga therapist or an experiential or psycho-dramatic therapist. Ideally, you’ll find a therapist who is able to choose a therapeutic tool from a large tool belt with many choices.
3. What is your commitment level to healing?
Successful therapy is mostly about your commitment to healing. Your counselor may ask you to consider abstaining from addictive substances, behaviors or eating disordered behaviors, especially while you’re engaged in trauma work. If you’re doing drugs, engaging in self harm or throwing up your food while you’re trying to heal from PTSD, it can side-track the process. Instead of taking the time in between sessions to allow your psyche to continue to process and digest the trauma, engaging in behaviors can numb the emotions and make it less likely that you will process and be ready for your next session. When you commit to your own healing process, it means you are willing to look at all aspects of your life and work towards shifting the things that no longer serve you.
Commitment to healing also means consistency.
If you engage in therapy every week, it creates synergistic momentum as opposed to dropping in only when you’re experiencing anxiety or depressive symptoms. Committing to consistent therapy will help you heal faster and more completely. What is your level of commitment to healing from a traumatic past?
If you’re looking for a trauma specialist near Bryn Mawr, Pennsylvania and need some helping finding the right person for you, please feel free to give us a call at 484-784-6244 for a free 15 minute initial consultation. We are happy to help you find the right trauma therapist for you.
Give yourself a break: when you compare yourself to people in magazines, remember that these people don’t actually look like that. They are photo-shopped and air brushed and have had their hair and makeup professionally done.
Focus on appreciation: Take 3 deep breaths and ask yourself ‘what do I love about my body’? Maybe start with things like: ‘I love the way my arms are able to hug people’ or ‘My legs get me places and help me close drawers when my hands are full’. See how many things you can find about what your body DOES that you can appreciate.
Reduce the criticism: Sometimes people believe that if they focus on what they don’t like, it will motivate them to change. The opposite is true. If you notice yourself measuring and pinching parts of your body that you don’t like, see if you can get yourself to STOP these actions. If you notice you’re in front of the mirror or critiquing your selfies often, commit to yourself that you will avoid the mirror and/or stop taking selfies for 1 week (or 1 day if you need to start there). Journal about this experience: what did you notice? Were you as critical?
Breathe into Compliments: If you receive a compliment, see if you can breathe into it rather than brushing it away. Take a few moments to really savor the compliment. Give yourself a few moments, even if you don’t believe it, to just pretend that it’s true. How would your life be different if you believed the compliments you received?
Project: You are on a search for body love. Look for images of people who are beautiful but are not perfect – whatever that means for you. If you feel that you need to be very thin, look for images of people who are NOT thin, but are beautiful anyway. Get at least 20 images. Gather these images in a place where you can look at them often – weather you have a paper copy or a Pintrest Board – put them all somewhere you can look at them at least daily and notice what you appreciate about these bodies. You might be surprised how your view of perfection shifts.
To learn more about how to love your body, call now to schedule a free 15 minute phone consultation: 610.314.8402
Post-traumatic stress disorder, also known as PTSD, is an indication from your body that it needs support in sorting some things out. Traumatic memories are stored in a different part of your brain than the rest of your memories. When therapy is completed successfully, brain scans show that the trauma memory has been moved to a different area of the brain. This alternate area of the brain doesn’t trigger your mind to get confused, your adrenaline to rush, and your body to be on alert.
Here are some of the symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM-V):
A stressor such as actual or threatened serious injury, threatened death or witnessing of death or actual or threatened sexual violence.
Intrusion symptoms such as
- intrusive memories
- traumatic nightmares
- dissociative reactions such as flashbacks
- prolonged or intense distress after being exposed to a trigger
Avoidance symptoms such as persistent efforts to avoid anything that triggers traumatic memories.
Alterations to thoughts and mood symptoms such as
- not being able to remember important parts of the traumatic event
- believing bad things about yourself and/or the world
- blaming yourself for the traumatic event
- overwhelming emotions such as horror, shame or anger related to the trauma that continue to happen even long after the event
- losing interest in things that you used to enjoy
- not being able to feel positive emotions such as joy
Reactive symptoms such as
- exaggerated startle response
- difficulty concentrating
- sleep difficulties
- aggressive or irritable behavior
- reckless or self-destructive behavior
If you are ready to listen your body signals and get some support to untangle the memories and put them in their proper place, I can help. My name is Tiffany Spilove and I LOVE working with people to heal their past. I want to make sure that you find peace inside your body and your mind. I have specialized training and experience helping people who have gone through sexual abuse, physical trauma and emotional pain.
Call me today for your free 15-minute phone consultation at 610-314-8402 and find out if therapy is a good option for you